How often do men who are 25 years older than you try to have a relationship with you?

I’m a 30-year-old woman. For about three years, my family has known another family — a mother, a father (50), and their two children. The father has an older brother, 54, let’s call him Tim. He lives in Germany, has been married three times, and has a grown-up daughter my age. I’m single, have no kids, and I’m not looking for a relationship.
When Tim came to visit his family, we would just have a barbecue together. I was never alone with him and never imagined he had romantic feelings for me. Then I had a serious accident and spent six months in the hospital. During that time, he visited me once, which I thought was completely normal.
About two weeks ago, Tim called me and asked if I liked him “as a man.” I said no — that he has a daughter my age and that I’m not looking for a relationship at all. He said he thought I liked him even before my accident. I asked what made him think that, and he said, “Nothing. Can’t I find a young woman attractive?” I told him he was wrong.
Since then, he’s been trying to meet me and has become very pushy. I told my aunt about it, and she just laughed, saying he was joking and I shouldn’t take it seriously — maybe I even provoked him.
I feel awful. It feels like my boundaries were violated. I don’t want to talk to anyone, especially men, right now.
Ladies, has anything like this ever happened to you? Do you think this kind of behavior is just a joke, or is it inappropriate and crossing a line?

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